Last week I shared my Next Big Thing in terms of my writing projects. I also got to introduce you to some of the authors I am honoured to know. Betsy Wuebker is one of them, and she kindly shared her Next Big Thing with me to share with you.
Betsy Wuebker’s Next Big Thing
What is the working title of your book?
Divorcing the Narcissist is nearing completion! Co-authored with Becky Blanton, with whom I co-authored The Narcissist at Work.
Where did the idea come from for the book?
Becky approached me to collaborate on The Narcissist at Work. She had read, reviewed and recommended The Narcissist: A User’s Guide, which I co-authored with Lori Hoeck. User’s Guide arose out of personal experiences Lori and I both had with narcissists. At the time we wrote User’s Guide in late 2009, there were very few resources and less information available for those who were seeking to understand and deal with narcissistic individuals. Since then, narcissistic behavior, malignant narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder have received more attention.
Becky and I wanted to expand on the impact of User’s Guide by focusing on the workplace environment. There are issues peculiar to working with and for narcissists beyond those of a more personal relationship. A power imbalance is inherent in a co-dependent relationship with a narcissist, for example, but it is sanctioned in the employer/employee or provider/client scenario. A narcissist in your working environment can not only wreak havoc on your career trajectory, but also impact your personal circumstances far beyond the project or job at hand. Individuals who work with narcissists suffer stress-related consequences ranging from simple loss of productivity to health impacts such as depression and worse.
While we were writing The Narcissist at Work, Becky envisioned a series. Divorcing the Narcissist contains personal stories, observations and advice researched from a variety of experts in psychology, personal finance and family law. While any relationship with a narcissist can be devastating, the negative repercussions from divorcing the narcissist affect not only the spouse, but also even more unfairly, the children of the marriage. The narcissist will often enlist and use children in conjunction with a high-conflict tactical legal and personal scenario. The goal is to subdue, fatigue and financially ruin the non-narcissistic spouse. Sadly, the legal system, which ostensibly should protect and advocate on behalf of the vulnerable, fails to do so in many cases, and can even collude with the narcissist via the no-fault premise by which the majority of states’ law is derived. It is our hope that Divorcing the Narcissist will help in providing a clear understanding of what is at stake, and empower individuals considering or already involved in extricating themselves from this most toxic relationship.
Will your book be self-published?
Yes, and proudly so! Like the others, Divorcing the Narcissist will be available in electronic (e-reader and PDF download) and paperback formats.
Eliza’s Note: to read my review of The Narcissist: A User’s Guide click here.
Betsy’s Books are available through Amazon:
I am happy to tag the next author in this fun and informative Next Big Thing chain!
Barbara is author of The Unfaithful Widow. She is also a antique dealer, jewelry designer, life commentator, and dog whisperer. She is a member of The Dog Writer’s Association Of America. She loves to do most everything except cook and clean house. Make sure you stay tuned to discover Barbara’s Next Big Thing over at Book Talk With Barbara Barth.
Barbara’s book is available through Amazon:The Unfaithful Widow: Fragmented Memoirs Of My First Year Alone