Comments on: Book review: Going Gray

By: Eliza

Eliza — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 01:12:31 +0000

@Linda – I think that is quite normal in relationships having some things you really insist on, even aspects of physical appearance. Mr Very Right asked me if he could shave his hair super short. “NO!” was my response. He has gorgeous thick waves. And he has made it very clear he likes me trim and in shape. But then again, so do I! And if your Hubby is comparing your body to a 19 year old, I say “Rock on!” *grin*

By: Linda Abbit

Linda Abbit — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 06:54:23 +0000

Thanks, Eliza, I will wait to buy the book until after your contest.

I believe Jeff is an anomaly amongst men. He is extremely particular about my hair — I’ve never met any male like him in that regard (or that would admit it). He is extremely observant overall for a male, and I think it may be due to his artist training and work.

He really asks nothing of me except to wear my hair the way he prefers it (I’ll have bangs til I’m 90!) and not to wear my skirts too long. If that’s all he asks (in terms of my physical appearance) I can deal with that!! Especially when he tells me I still have the body of a 19 year old. LOL I always reply, “Yea right — in clothes!”

By: Patricia

Patricia — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 22:03:23 +0000

I was a white blond as a small child, then by the time I went to high school it was black with little bits of gray here and there. At age 40, when I was seriously job hunting again, I reverse frosted my hair – added the dark back in and I started getting interviews after a year of no interviews. Employers were not afraid to say in those days -”you are older than we were looking for with this position.”

My hair still is a bit of mousie brown in it and is now going nearly pure white (my brother and mother have extremely stunning silver hair) My biggest problem now is when I should get a wig as I am getting extremely thin on top and it shows – especially in my UK pictures.

I have always had gray hair it seems….I feel beautiful and powerful….and unique….at 60 and so heavy I do not like the way I am treated, but I do not dye my hair.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 10:40:43 +0000

@Linda – hold out on buying the book for a couple of weeks. I am having a contest to give away my copy. You might be the lucky winner! Interesting that your husband asked you to colour your hair. I am not reflecting on him personally, but the general concensus amongst men is that they don’t care. Do they really not care? Or when asked do they say they don’t care?

By: Linda Abbit

Linda Abbit — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 03:55:00 +0000

Hi,

Thanks for telling us about this book — I’m definitely going to read it.

My gray hairs began showing by the time I became a mom at age 35 and my husband asked me to color my hair then. I’ve continued ever since, but really really really want to stop now. Perhaps there will be some “ammo” in there I can use to convince him that gray won’t make me look older.

Thanks for the recommendation, Eliza.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 00:34:02 +0000

@Canadian Army Wife – I had an excellent hairdresser who wove several lighter colours into my hair as I was letting the grey grow in. Each visit he would weave less and less in. It worked wonderfully. I think it’s important to work with a really good hairdresser over the transition period. It keeps you from caving in and dying it all again.

By: Canadian Army Wife

Canadian Army Wife — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 11:30:50 +0000

Personally, I never had an issue with going grey. However, I did have to start dying my hair shortly after my kids were born as everything that wasn’t grey got really dark. Instead of dying the grey to match the dark hair which would have made my skin look pasty white, I lightened the dark stuff to make less of a contrast with the big grey patch of hair running right across the top of my head (can you say skunk?).

Anyway, now that my hair has evened out (i.e. become more grey) I don’t dye it at all – well maybe once in the deep winter when my hair is darker & my skin has lost it’s tan I’ll give it a “little rinse” to lighten it up. I can’t wait until I’m more grey and I don’t have to bother.