Comments on: Countering reduced libido and getting back that sizzle

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FitBuff.com's Total Mind and Body Fitness Blog — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 23:55:42 +0000

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By: Eliza

Eliza — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 16:10:42 +0000

@Lori – I love dancing to Shakira. I don’t know how to ‘officially’ belly dance, but man is her music sensual and energetic. Really gets the mojo going. And yes, I can well imagine that full time elder care is drain emotionally and physically. I would think it’s very important to deliberately schedule ‘date nights’. And I don’t necessarily mean for romantic interludes. I mean time to really connect one-on-one. I find even just with the normal flow of life Mr Very Right and I can forget to take the time to just BE with each other. Fortunately, one or the other of us speaks up and says “Hey! Time for us!”

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 15:20:42 +0000

Fire dowser — mom with Alzheimer’s living with us.

Helpful flame fanners: Kegel exercises, exercises that move the hips a lot, and the right music to set the mood and then pump up the mood.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 16:46:06 +0000

@Davina – oh, been there down that. You feel all sexy and revved up and no one around to share the joy with LOL Wrong relationship? HUGE fire dowser. Also been there done that.

By: Davina

Davina — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 16:38:18 +0000

I love sex too! The biggest fire dowser for me is to be in the wrong relationship. I ended one at the beginning of this year and now the fire is back. Yep… 9 months with fire and NO partner. Menopause? It’s a piece of cake compared to THAT

By: Eliza

Eliza — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 15:34:48 +0000

@Dot – and to which I reply ‘to each her own’. I am sure women, and yes even men, have a range of interest in sex. And that is certainly normal and perfectly okay. But for those of us who really enjoy it, we can take steps to minimize the impact of perimenopause and menopause on our desires.

By: Dot

Dot — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 13:32:10 +0000

I had to stop for a minute and ask, “Who’s Eliza?” Then I remembered that UrbanPanther is an alias.

I was happy when menopause came 12 years ago so I could finally be rid of 35 years of pain, mood swings and inconvenience from monthly periods. I’ve never really understood what all the fuss is about. Even when I was young. It’s not something I’d give up a good movie for or get off the computer for. I must not be having the same experience as men are having. Some of them are wiling to risk marriage, family and career for it. To me, it’s about as exciting as drinking a glass of lemonade.

As Rosanne Barr once said about sex, “I have things to do!” Same here. It’s pleasant, but I’m not giving up a lot of my time for it. “Anti-depressants, blood pressure pills and sleeping pills are known libido quenchers…” and I must take all three daily.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 12:49:58 +0000

@Elaine – funny how a women’s sexual appetite is a taboo topic, but men get to shout it to the world. I find communication is a key one. Not so much about what works, in my case, but about deliberately making time for each other.

By: Elaine Shannon

Elaine Shannon — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 11:32:17 +0000

Thanks for bringing up this “touchy” subject…growing up in an east coast conservative RC family you can imagine that this topic would not be one discussed at the dinner table…ever.
However in my 40′s I have found my sexual voice and am looking for answers, I might be 44 but I am not dead.
Fire Dowsers…our 13 yr old awake in the next room, WAHM burnout…i am really feeling it right now, lack of communication.
Again thanks for opening the dialogue.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 00:53:37 +0000

@A nauty mous – now this is a whole other post in the making Seriously though, thank you for sharing this link. I have a favourite store here in town, so haven’t shopped online yet. Will certainly check out the products on this site and compare prices.