Darn Near 50: Has life hit you with a frying pan?

I have to admit that I am a control freak. Not with regards to other people. I am really good about only offering advice when asked, and letting friends and family follow their own journeys. Rather, I am a self-control freak.

I used to be really bad in terms of my ‘need to know’. I mean really bad. To the point that if Hubby said we were going to Canadian Tire, and we went to Canadian Tire AND Home Depot I would get upset.

Ya, I know, that is anal. I have given up on that.

I have never done illicit drugs in my life, because there was no way I was handing over control to a chemical. That and I get high on Neo Citron, so I figured I would be the one who thought she could fly on her very first toke and launch myself out a tenth story window.

I rarely drink alcohol and when I do it is a single glass of something. No getting tipsy for me.

Okay, so drugs and alcohol might not be good examples, because controlling those are good things. But lately, I have had to let go of THREE more esoteric things in the space of three weeks. To say I am feeling adrift without a life line is an understatement. More like adrift in middle of the ocean with no land or rescue boat or helicopter anywhere in sight.

The only thing that is keeping me from sinking is trust. Trust that it will all work out just as it should.

In fact, when I look back over my darn near fifty years of life, every single time I let go and trust, it does work out just as it should.The proof is there. I just get wrapped up in controlling something and I forget.

But life has a funny way of reminding you of basic principles. Generally when you refuse to remember something, you get smacked over the head with the proverbial frying pan. It hurts like freakin’ heck so you drop whatever you were holding onto so tightly.

And ….

Surprise, surprise, it is always for the best.

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  • Over the years have you learned to let go of control and just let things unfold?
  • When you do cling tightly to something, in what way does life remind you to let go?
  • If you are totally honest with yourself, are there still things in your life you are trying to control?

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