Comments on: Dating after 40 really isn’t that bad

By: Graceful Women: Love after 40 … and beyond! | Silver and Grace

Graceful Women: Love after 40 … and beyond! | Silver and Grace — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 02:04:16 +0000

[...] I met Chris Zydel through Twitter. Not sure exactly how, but I think I made some comment about how wonderful Mr. Very Right is, and she piped right in. You see, Chris and I have very similar stories in that we both found deep and profound love after 40. [...]

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Be The Change » Honorable Mention vol. I — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:09:15 +0000

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By: Dating for Love After 40

Dating for Love After 40 — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 09:35:59 +0000

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By: Patricia

Patricia — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:01:41 +0000

I am perfectly happy for my daughter to be single, married, gay, whatever ( well, S&M would not happen!) But I think she would love to experience a relationship before she decides what is best for her. I think hormones are playing games with her right now too - I just try to support what she wants to do. My guy just spent part of my travel money for Scotland because he did not think why that money was in the savings account ....he forgot about my plans and efforts and we have no replacement funds/ it took me 20 years to save enough for this trip - in one week....I am so angry I would not recommend marriage to anyone today! Patricia’s last blog post..Understanding Agenda For a New Economy ~ David Korten

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 19:59:41 +0000

@Canadian Army Wife – “men marry women hoping they won’t change”. This is very interesting. I entered my second long term relationship when I was 28, and it last 16 years. And throughout that period, everytime I moved forward and grew, he would get furious because I “lied to him” about myself. I could never understand what he meant. I hadn’t lied about anything; I simply evolved. But in his mind, I hidden who I truly was from him, and I had somehow bamboozled him. Of course, in strong relationships, both people in each encourage and support growth.

By: Canadian Army Wife

Canadian Army Wife — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 11:00:39 +0000

@Eliza - True, not many young women know themselves well enough so I think the moral of the story is: get to know yourself FIRST, then get to know a man. If you show a man that you're one sort of thing, then half way through you change (grow?) that really isn't fair from the man's point of view. Men marry women hoping they won't change, women marry men hoping they will change. Canadian Army Wife’s last blog post..End of Deployment

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 10:14:22 +0000

@Patricia – everyone in their own good time, I believe. My middle daughter didn’t seriously date until she was almost done university. She was focused on school work. And I know women who are perfectly happy being single, but their pet peeve is people who try to match them up with someone.

Interesting how moms want their daughters associated with a man. I am guilty of that, for sure. I wanted my middle daughter to find a boyfriend, thinking that would make her happy, and then I could relax. Why do we do that? Why can’t be just let our daughters find their own way with love and life?

By: Patricia

Patricia — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 02:07:45 +0000

I am trying to get my 30 year old to date – she tried an online service and got one nice friend from it – I know she would like to date – but she holds back – I see all the men turning their heads and taking a double take…wish I knew a “match making” book to give her…She has never even been asked to be a bridesmaid at her friends weddings – and she is invited to lots of wedding in her 30 years….after all the years in school studying it’s hard to turn on the switch that one has been ignoring – maybe this is part of the trouble for women who are divorcing too?

Patricia’s last blog post..Understanding Agenda For a New Economy ~ David Korten

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 01:18:09 +0000

@Canadian Army Wife – yes, it certainly is. But how many 20-something women really know themselves well enough to know who they want in their lives? Some do, for sure, but I certainly didn’t. I met my husband (father of my 3 beautiful kids) when I was 19. I was just a baby myself! Then, I then entered my next relationship at 28. Still got it wrong.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 01:15:30 +0000

@Lori – it takes time to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t, and so many of us don’t allow ourselves that precious time. As well, even though we know what is right (as in your post on intuition) we second guess ourselves for a variety of reasons. Generally out of fear and insecurity.