Give Yourself the Freedom of Real

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When Eliza asked me to write about one of the Silver & Grace keywords, I vacillated between “real” and “fun”; even considered “real fun”. :-b

But ultimately, I decided I had to write about “real” precisely because I’m working through some challenges in that area right now … and isn’t that how it works best?

Besides, as such an important quality, “real” is worth some focus. We can live our lives pretending to some degree, or we can embrace the exhilarating freedom that being real allows.

But geez, it’s a BIG topic. Where to even begin?

Well, how about at the beginning? Let’s get to the essence of what “real” can mean to us as individuals.

What’s Real, Really?

As I practice it, being real is about being genuine and authentic. It’s about integrating our truth at all levels of our being, as best we can.

That includes being real in our expression of who we are, but even before we can do that, we need to be real with ourselves.

Being Real With Ourselves

To be real with ourselves, there are a few main qualities we need to activate:

1. Awareness

We need to first of all be aware of ourselves. Aware of what automatically reveals itself to us as we go about our lives, as well as what we deliberately look within to discover.

This requires taking some time to pay attention. Consistently.

2. Courage

I don’t know about you, but for me it’s not always pretty what I discover in there! Sometimes it’s a feeling I’d rather not have, a characteristic I don’t want to admit to, etc.

Of course we also find delightful things like beauty, talent, and a multitude of virtues, but it takes courage to be willing to look in the first place.

Until we drum up the courage to peer within, we can’t possibly know ourselves enough to be real.

3. Acceptance

At this point we can either ignore or deny what we think we’ve found, or we can be willing to accept and even embrace it. This is the first step toward being able to explore what these qualities mean to us and what we want to do with them.

Being Real in Our Expression

1. Honesty

This is my favorite part of “real” and if you go away with only one thing from this article, let this be it.

The root of honesty is the same as that for honor, and being honest is precisely how we honor our spirits. I personally believe we owe that to ourselves.

So what are we honest about? Well … What qualities need to be nurtured and exercised so our living spirits can thrive and flourish? Those. Express those.

Sometimes we don’t want to hear the answer, because acting on it requires yet …

2. More Courage!

Often it’s freeing and invigorating to be as real as we can be. But sometimes it’s scary to be our true selves. To express our quirkiness, to show our true light.

If you’re like me, you’ll find that the more you gather the nerve to let your own light shine, the stronger it gets, and the more likely you are to spontaneously express it in the future.

Gifts All Around

I hope this little bit of food for thought gives you a push toward stepping even more into your authenticity than you already have.

I also encourage you to visit this site often. Eliza is as real as they get, and we can all learn more about being real not only by her shining example but in the consistently inspiring collection of articles she shares here.

And in closing, I wish you nothing more than to be able to be the real you, inside and out.

Your unique spirit is a gift we will all benefit from.

For real!

How about you? What does “real” mean to you? Are you there yet? Do you have some tips to share?

Patti Foy can be found at her ever-evolving blog Lightspirited Being where she supports people in shining their own unique light and offers practical ways to apply metaphysics for insight, guidance, and transformation. She also provides access to her services as a jyotishi (Vedic astrologer), an intuitive, and an energy/consciousness practitioner trained to help shift difficult patterns in your life.

Silver & Grace Approved Books

Looking for some great books on being real? The following books have the Silver & Grace Seal of Approval as excellent resources for women. They are available through Amazon.

The Gifts of Imperfection
Ugly As Sin
The Hardline Self Help Handbook

For more Silver & Grace approved books check out Eliza’s Recommendations.

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Comments

  1. Patti – love this post. I like to show my quirkiness, and I realize I’ll write about most anything with humor behind it, for me the challenge is showing my fears and opening up to that in writing. Eliza is slapping me into a great place with her mentoring! I love your honesty here. Hugs.

  2. Hi Barbara,

    Thanks for all that! 2 things:
    You are one of the reasons I love recommending this site. I love your writing and your sense of humor and even that bit of sass that you portray (and hmmm, wonder if there’s another influence here for that, hmmm … Eliza? ;-b)

    But also, where you say the challenge is showing your fears, I realize that MY challenge is showing my mistakes, or maybe being judged. I wasn’t quite so aware of it that way, so thank you for that.

    Anyway, keep letting that light of yours shine. It’s a fascinating one!

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