Comments on: Graceful Women: Love after 40 … and beyond!

By: herbes

herbes — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 09:14:14 +0000

Before we can require someone’s best, we must be our best. As an older woman you have had plenty of time to work on you. In fact, you probably know what you want and don’t want better than anyone does. You’ve been married and divorced, or just out there long enough to know the score. You go girl! You’re ready.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 10:33:29 +0000

@Chris – the Graceful Women Series is rapidly becoming my favourite part of Silver & Grace. My goal was to create a community of women, and this series goes along way to doing that. Thank you so much for being part of that community.

By: chris zydel

chris zydel — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 02:03:45 +0000

Dear Eliza,

Thanks so much for the opportunity to write about my happy ending love story on your fabulous new site. It’s really fun to see the comments from all the women who are moved to share their own stories. And yes, the mold thing made me laugh out loud. Shedding some of those old, limiting beliefs about what was possible for me in the love department was definitely like getting rid of a very nasty, yucky fungus. Thank the goddess THAT’S over with.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 01:22:03 +0000

@Kathryn – I’ve always been attracted to men at least 5 years older than me. When I was single I dated men as much as 15 years my junior. Had one heck of a lot of fun. Mr Very Right is younger than me. Only by 2 years, but I highly recommend younger men

By: Eliza

Eliza — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 01:19:22 +0000

@Barbara – LOL pretty prophetic yucky fungus really. I got rid of my yucky fungus at 42 and never looked back

By: Barbara

Barbara — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 23:14:17 +0000

Chris,

Thanks for your honest sharing!

I also laughed out loud when I read “mold” in your piece, I was expecting “mould.” I now know the two spellings are interchangeable, but the thought of you having a 40+ year old yucky fungus made me laugh.

Perhaps some of our unchallenged beliefs about life and love are just old “molds” after all.

Cheers to you and your husband!

By: Kathryn - Collage Diva

Kathryn - Collage Diva — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 18:46:52 +0000

Yeah! I’m all smiles. I love hearing stories like this. I do *BELIEVE* in them. These days I’m focusing on me and my creativity with thoughts of sharing this grand adventure with the right man. Oh you cougar! I’ve always been attracted to much older men, I’ll have to consider all of the other potential suitors. Thanks again for an uplifting post.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 17:22:36 +0000

@Lori – interesting how there is that belief system (spoken or not) that strong women (physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally) will have a tough time finding a life partner. How sad. And how so unfair to women and to men.

By: Lori Hoeck

Lori Hoeck — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 17:18:40 +0000

The same was implied in my family circle to those over 30. Added to that was the kicker that “no man who isn’t a black belt is going to marry a female black belt.” Fortunately, I wasn’t looking and had never dreamed of my ideal wedding. By the grace of God and divine intervention, I fell in love anyway. We have been married 16 years, and our dedication to working on our issues has helped us over the rough spots of having lived as singles for 30+ years.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 13:32:28 +0000

@Dot – I agree with your comment about therapy. Although it doesn’t strictly need to be with a therapist. It is about taking the time to get to the root of yourself, and really uncover who you truly are and what you truly want. And when two people have done this, and then come together? Magic! As for that nasty article? So incrediably counter productive to us embracing our powers and strengths. And yep, totally FALSE. I have several girlfriends who found amazing awesome love after 40.