Comments on: Joining the ranks of the Sandwich Generation http://silverandgrace.com/joining-the-ranks-of-the-sandwich-generation Thu, 17 May 2012 16:43:10 -0400 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Baby Boomers U. S. (The Blog) » Blog Archive » Baby Boomers Blog Carnival Twenty-third Edition http://silverandgrace.com/joining-the-ranks-of-the-sandwich-generation/comment-page-1#comment-594 Baby Boomers U. S. (The Blog) » Blog Archive » Baby Boomers Blog Carnival Twenty-third Edition Wed, 20 Jan 2010 11:21:28 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=181#comment-594 [...] Fayle presents Joining the ranks of the Sandwich Generation posted at Silver and Grace, saying, “Silver & Grace is a site dedicated to guiding women [...] [...] Fayle presents Joining the ranks of the Sandwich Generation posted at Silver and Grace, saying, “Silver & Grace is a site dedicated to guiding women [...]

]]> By: Eliza http://silverandgrace.com/joining-the-ranks-of-the-sandwich-generation/comment-page-1#comment-66 Eliza Tue, 07 Jul 2009 21:40:04 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=181#comment-66 @Bill - thank you for sharing the link. There appear to be some interesting posts there. @Bill – thank you for sharing the link. There appear to be some interesting posts there.

]]> By: Eliza http://silverandgrace.com/joining-the-ranks-of-the-sandwich-generation/comment-page-1#comment-65 Eliza Tue, 07 Jul 2009 21:38:58 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=181#comment-65 @armywife - and not just a challenge within the military. One brother lives across the world, and I live 5 hour drive away from my parents. That leaves one brother living close to them. When my mother was sick and in hospital, he put in a full day's work, went to the hospital, then came home to all the usual daily stuff. My brother in Spain felt helpless. I stayed in contact by email, and drove there and back in a weekend. And lasted for 3 weeks, not for months or years. How many families these days all live close to one another? @armywife – and not just a challenge within the military. One brother lives across the world, and I live 5 hour drive away from my parents. That leaves one brother living close to them. When my mother was sick and in hospital, he put in a full day’s work, went to the hospital, then came home to all the usual daily stuff. My brother in Spain felt helpless. I stayed in contact by email, and drove there and back in a weekend. And lasted for 3 weeks, not for months or years. How many families these days all live close to one another?

]]> By: Bill http://silverandgrace.com/joining-the-ranks-of-the-sandwich-generation/comment-page-1#comment-64 Bill Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:01:13 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=181#comment-64 This was a great post Eliza, You have some really good stats. The sandwich generation is also really expanding right now because of the baby boomers. They are moving toward retirement and due to their large size, they are pushing on all sides of the current caregiving system. This will push a lot of adult children into a caregiving role in the years to come. I work on two elderly caregiving blogs myself and I just wanted to offer them up. They write from the perspective of a large, nation-wide caregiving group and they are happy to answer any questions that your readers might have. If you are interested, check out http://www.rightathome.net/seniorhomecare. Best, Bill This was a great post Eliza,

You have some really good stats. The sandwich generation is also really expanding right now because of the baby boomers. They are moving toward retirement and due to their large size, they are pushing on all sides of the current caregiving system. This will push a lot of adult children into a caregiving role in the years to come.

I work on two elderly caregiving blogs myself and I just wanted to offer them up. They write from the perspective of a large, nation-wide caregiving group and they are happy to answer any questions that your readers might have. If you are interested, check out http://www.rightathome.net/seniorhomecare.

Best,
Bill

]]> By: Canadian Army Wife http://silverandgrace.com/joining-the-ranks-of-the-sandwich-generation/comment-page-1#comment-63 Canadian Army Wife Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:22:01 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=181#comment-63 My Mother was in the sandwich generation. She was an only child so had no siblings to help her out. I know it was hard on her but my Dad was a great help. I worry that I WON'T be there for my parents when they need my help. We move around so much that we may not live close to my parents. I'm envisioning spending lots of money on travel and time away from my children in order to be there when I'm needed. I don't feel I can leave everything on my sister's shoulders just because she lives closer. I've seen this in many military families, the siblings resent the ones who live far away because they aren't there for the day to day struggles. It puts a lot of strain on relationships. <abbr><em>Canadian Army Wife’s last blog post..<a href="http://jorgbiz.wordpress.com/2009/07/06/canadian-forces-open-house/" rel="nofollow">Canadian Forces Open House</a></abbr></em> My Mother was in the sandwich generation. She was an only child so had no siblings to help her out. I know it was hard on her but my Dad was a great help.

I worry that I WON’T be there for my parents when they need my help. We move around so much that we may not live close to my parents. I’m envisioning spending lots of money on travel and time away from my children in order to be there when I’m needed. I don’t feel I can leave everything on my sister’s shoulders just because she lives closer.

I’ve seen this in many military families, the siblings resent the ones who live far away because they aren’t there for the day to day struggles. It puts a lot of strain on relationships.

Canadian Army Wife’s last blog post..Canadian Forces Open House

]]> By: Eliza http://silverandgrace.com/joining-the-ranks-of-the-sandwich-generation/comment-page-1#comment-62 Eliza Tue, 07 Jul 2009 10:37:29 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=181#comment-62 @Friar - no children, but a job to go to everyday, and a house to maintain ... and a fair distance to drive to help out with Mom. That all adds up! So, open faced sammitch, or just a different grained bread. @Friar – no children, but a job to go to everyday, and a house to maintain … and a fair distance to drive to help out with Mom. That all adds up! So, open faced sammitch, or just a different grained bread.

]]> By: Eliza http://silverandgrace.com/joining-the-ranks-of-the-sandwich-generation/comment-page-1#comment-61 Eliza Tue, 07 Jul 2009 10:34:49 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=181#comment-61 @Linda - that is an excellent point that you cannot be everything to everyone all the time. It is something that needs to be clear to everyone, but most importantly we need to be clear on it. We tend to take on too much, thinking we are failures if we don't provide for everyone. @Linda – that is an excellent point that you cannot be everything to everyone all the time. It is something that needs to be clear to everyone, but most importantly we need to be clear on it. We tend to take on too much, thinking we are failures if we don’t provide for everyone.

]]> By: Linda Abbit http://silverandgrace.com/joining-the-ranks-of-the-sandwich-generation/comment-page-1#comment-58 Linda Abbit Tue, 07 Jul 2009 05:38:17 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=181#comment-58 Having just come to the end of my caregiving journey after eleven years I must say that this is an excellent summary of what it's like for the sandwich generation, Eliza. One other thing along with preparation and communication that helped me was to be organized and keep your priorities clear. You can't always be there for your aging parents as well as your children, and at times tough choices must be made. Being a caregiver was very hard, but I wouldn't have missed it for anything now that I am no longer in the midst of it. This special time I had with my parents was truly a gift. <abbr><em>Linda Abbit’s last blog post..<a href="http://tenderlovingeldercare.com/to-mom-with-love-on-your-100th-birthday" rel="nofollow">To Mom With Love on Your 100th Birthday</a></abbr></em> Having just come to the end of my caregiving journey after eleven years I must say that this is an excellent summary of what it’s like for the sandwich generation, Eliza.

One other thing along with preparation and communication that helped me was to be organized and keep your priorities clear. You can’t always be there for your aging parents as well as your children, and at times tough choices must be made.

Being a caregiver was very hard, but I wouldn’t have missed it for anything now that I am no longer in the midst of it. This special time I had with my parents was truly a gift.

Linda Abbit’s last blog post..To Mom With Love on Your 100th Birthday

]]> By: Friar http://silverandgrace.com/joining-the-ranks-of-the-sandwich-generation/comment-page-1#comment-57 Friar Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:34:46 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=181#comment-57 I dont' have kids, but I have a Mom who's getting up there. Who might need some extra care (especially after a recent accident). What does that make me...? On "open faced" sammitch, I guess...(??) I dont’ have kids, but I have a Mom who’s getting up there. Who might need some extra care (especially after a recent accident).

What does that make me…?

On “open faced” sammitch, I guess…(??)

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