Pish-posh, Eliza. Telepathy exists in books and movies.

Sorry, I beg to differ. Marc and I are constantly picking up on each other’s thoughts.

Well, you live with him. You have conversations with him. You do things with him. You make plans with him. You aren’t picking up on each other’s thoughts. It’s all just a natural extension of all this.

Somewhat yes. But in a large part, no.

For example, we rarely order dinner in. Maybe two times per year. And yet, I can guarantee you that for those two times per year it goes down like this:

Marc, let’s just order in.

Funny you should say that, Eliza. I’m on the St.Hubert website right now, picking out some chicken meals to order.

Not a very exciting example is it? But it is the type of example that repeats itself over and over between the two us.

Maybe this is why people discount telepathy. They are looking for the exciting and sensational examples you find in movies and books. Or, we think that telepathy is the sole realm of cable tv psychics.

And yet, it’s really quite mundane. Like deciding to order dinner in at the exact same time as your husband. It can be singing a song in your head, then having the person standing next to you start to sing the exact same song out loud.

I am positive that on more than once occasion someone said something to you, and you have responded with

Wow! I was just thinking that!

You then promptly ceased to put any further thought to the fact that two people had the exact same thought at the exact same time.

I think also we misconstrue what telepathy feels like. Again, movies and books will have us believe that we get ‘inside someone’s head’ and literally hear their voice speaking.

Actually, I honestly believe a thought is entirely my own. It sounds like my ‘thought voice’ and I certainly do not have a sense of someone else’s presence. I also know that Marc thinks the thought is entirely his own. It isn’t until we compare notes that we realize we are sharing a thought.

Is that it, Eliza? Telepathy is quite boring then.

Actually, no. Once you acknowledge that you are routinely mundanely telepathic, you can crank it up a notch. Marc and I now delight in playing ‘What am I thinking?’ Now that we have simply accepted our shared ability, we are getting really accurate at this game.

Trust me, some of our shared thoughts are far from mundane.

What am I thinking, Marc?

Your thinking you want to go upstairs, take off your clothes and …

I’ll let you finish off that thought. After all, you too are telepathic.

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[Women]are more open to the spiritual world and have less resistance in receiving intuition. However, not many women are serious about their spiritual development. They are content with their natural intuition and not very interested in actively developing it further to a higher level of integration.

What does Akemi mean women don’t actively develop their intuition? That can’t be right!

Akemi then went on to add

Men are less likely to come to my service, but once they do, they commit to their spiritual development and take the 6 week coaching program, while many women just take the reading and be done with it.

This made me stop and think about women I know of who claim to be working on developing their intuition. They go to psychic after psychic after psychic.

As a matter of fact, there is now a phenomenon called psychic addiction. I kid you not. Some women end up spending hundreds if not thousands of dollars in psychic readings. To the point of putting themselves in financial dire straights.

I think this boils down to the age old behaviour of asking a question repeatedly until you get the answer you want. In other words, rather than doing the internal work needed to make very real changes, women go to psychics hoping they will be told that they will find love, get a good job, end up with a lot of money …whatever they think will make them happier.

The fact of the matter is, developing your intuition and making real changes in your life is darn hard work. Psychics and divination techniques are simply tools, not the solution. And using those tools properly is also darn hard work.

I work with tarot cards, but I didn’t just pick up a deck and decide I could read them. I took courses; Beginner Tarot, Intermediate Tarot, Advanced Tarot and specialized workshops. I also took formal courses in Druidry.

I have since moved from the traditional Rider-Waite cards to Brian Froud’s oracle deck because it works best for me. But, I have carried over my understanding of the tarot system. As well, I found Druidry too dry for my personality and moved to a similar belief system that is earthier. But, I still use all the techniques I learned in my Druidry courses.

When life gets busy, I drift away from my intuitive self. I let that ‘muscle’ get weak, and I have to consciously exercise it to get back in shape. But it’s worth it, because the stronger that intuition is the happier I am.

There are no external answers to our problems, and nothing is ever changed without putting in the work.

I would like to think that the women Akemi is referring to use her reading as a tool, and don’t show up again because they are doing very hard work in other ways to enhance their intuition and improve their happiness.

If they are simply moving on to the next spiritual advisor in hopes of finding that magic elixir, they are doing themselves and those advisers a huge disservice.

Your turn:

• Do you study and practice formal techniques to enhance your intuition?
• Do you believe that psychics provide answers, or guide you to find your own answers?

Suggested Reading:

Can we become addicted to psychics?
10 Ways to Increase Your Intuition
Develop your intuition and increase your pychic abilities

I was, therefore, very intrigued when Akemi Gaines contacted me about her Akashic Record Readings, and I asked her some questions. I am pleased to share her responses with you.

I am a strong believer in the three stages of womanhood: maid, mother, crone. Silver & Grace is mainly about the crone stage – the stage of wisdom. To me, this is the stage where you start to make sense of everything. How does the Akashic Record Reading help ‘make sense of everything’ and contribute to our wisdom?

Hello Eliza and Silver & Grace readers! So honored to be here.

Many of my clients are women around the age of 35 to 55. It’s a good time to reflect on the course of life they have journeyed. And with life expectancy getting longer and longer, we need to be serious how we can live a happy and healthy life long after this stage.

Akashic Record Reading helps recognize the self-sabotaging patterns, make sense of the challenges in life, and helps create happier, more fulfilling life. Many people have energetic programs that repeat in their mind, causing them to act in a way they know won’t serve them well. The problem is that just noticing this self-sabotaging program doesn’t change the behavior pattern. They often try to counter act on it, but that is not the same with clearing the negative program.

Another example of how Akashic Record Reading can help is by helping people realize the true meaning of their life challenges. We often choose our own challenges on the soul level as a way to learn life lessons. Realizing the lesson helps to see the difficulties not in the regular negative way but in a more meaningful way, as growth opportunities. We can then turn it around with the awareness that we can learn the lesson through positive reaffirming way, too.

I encourage people to use the wisdom of the Akashic Records as a way to improve their lives. Don’t just treasure the wisdom, use it! We don’t need to retreat from life just because we are of certain age. And interestingly, some of my clients report they look and act younger after the reading and clearing.

I loved the following from your website: “Very often, I find people work so hard on the superficial symptoms of the issue while not realizing the root cause of the issue.” This is very true statement. Akashic Record Readings are based on energies carried forward through lifetimes. How do these energies impact our lives in the here and now?

There are many kinds of energetic issues. Souls carry over unresolved issues beyond one lifetime, in the hope it finds healing in the next lifetime.

For instance, I had a client who was a monk in one of her past lives. Souls incarnate in various genders and situations to experience this world in different ways. Anyhow, as a monk, she happened to find something she wasn’t supposed to know, and was severely punished. This registers as a curse, and her soul took it because of her sense of guilt. The curse is, “Ignorance is bliss.” So even to this day, she gets scared to get to know something important.

I guess she worked hard to overcome this program. She forced herself to study hard even though she felt strong resistance every time she took a new class or seminar. She has been doing fine in her career. But when her husband got sick and the medical bills started to pile up, she was petrified to check them and the bank statements, leading to catastrophic situation that she knows she could better handle if only she was more comfortable to check them earlier.

Did it help her if she read books on personal finance? Or repeated the affirmation that she can handle it? Or if she forced herself to check the finance? The last one may have prevented this crisis, but her fear remains. Clearing the curse, the root cause, takes care of all the subsequent symptoms that show up as problems.

Is identifying energies enough, or do we then have ‘homework’ in order to move forward unblocked and revitalized?

It depends on the energetic issue. I often assign a clearing homework to my clients while I do my part of the clearing. Their awareness and willingness to clear the energetic issues (such as the aforementioned curse) is essential, and the ritual of the clearing work helps the subconscious to release them.

And this one isn’t about the readings per se. In your opinion, are there energies and life decisions unique to women that keep us from truly integrating our minds, body and spirit?

I think women have easier time to connect body, mind, and spirit than men. We are more open to the spiritual world and have less resistance in receiving intuition. However, not many women are serious about their spiritual development. They are content with their natural intuition and not very interested in actively developing it further to a higher level of integration.

While 80% of my Akashic Record Reading clients are women, women account only 50% in my Spirit Guides Coaching. Men are less likely to come to my service, but once they do, they commit to their spiritual development and take the 6 week coaching program, while many women just take the reading and be done with it.

It’s really the issue of each individual’s choice, but I do see a tendency among women to be reserved and uncommitted to their own inner growth. Considering how easy it can be for women to integrate body, mind and spirit, this is a regrettable tendency.

Akemi Gaines reads people’s soul records, called the Akashic Records, and clears the energetic issues that affect us mentally, emotionally, and even physically. She resides in Oregon, USA, but takes clients worldwide. You can find more about her service at

She also blogs at Yes to Me, sharing tips to create more love and abundance.

For me, this always conjures up the image of a yogi master sitting on a mountain top. And the other thought that pops into my head is “I don’t have time to sit still that long.”

But in reality, I medidate daily in some form or other. Because to me, meditation is any activity that allows my mind to just wander. To get past all the noise and let thoughts bubble up to the surface.

I do this is in structured and unstructured ways.

Washing the dishes and running allow my body to go into autopilot, so that my mind can take over.

I love the white noise created by the vacuum cleaner, or the rumble of the hot tub.  They literally block out the rest of the world.

But I also focus my thoughts by working with oracle cards. I still have to ‘let go’, because using cards implies a belief that the cards show up because they are supposed to. I then focus on the imagery and record the thoughts that are invoked.

I have trained in formal meditation techniques, but I don’t use them for revelations. I use them when my body is showing signs of stress or is ill.  The techniques to bring my mind, body and spirit back into alignment. I probably due this about three or four times a year. Certainly not daily or weekly.

I think we all have our own ways of letting go and allowing the deep down thoughts and desires be heard.

The trick isn’t how you get to the inner voice, more so as really listening to the inner voice. And if you tune in on a regular basis, you start to find that the voice isn’t buried so deeply anymore. It starts to make itself heard completely unbidden.

And I always listen. I have learned never to second guess it. It can be something simple like “Don’t put that plate so close to the counter; it will get knocked off” to “do not trust this person” to “take this job that was just offered to you out of the blue”.

Bad things happen when I second guess that voice. Good things happen when I listen.

Are there physical benefits of meditation?

Although we tend to think of meditation as a spiritual exercise, there are physical health benefits. As mentioned, I use formal techniques when my body is ill in some way. I believe I heal and recover much faster because of it.

Here are some documented benefits:

• increases blood flow and slows heart rate
• decreases muscle tension
• increase serotonin
• enhances the immune system
• reduces the activity of viruses

Why is listening to the inner voice more important that ever?

We are changing. Our bodies are going through so much change during our peri-menopause and menopause cycle that somedays we don’t even recognize it. We are starting to pull away from nurturing others and putting the focus on ourselves. Our hormones are on a roller coaster ride and our tolerance level for other people’s ‘silliness’ is next to zero.

It appears as if we are reinventing ourselves.

But I don’t believe we are reinventing ourselves. I am, and always have been, me.  But my changing body, and state of mind, is demanding that I really tune into me. 

Sure, the reality of daily life is I have to still pay attention to all the external noise. But the focus is shifting. First, I listen to what I have to say. Then, and only then, do I interpet what everyone else has to say.

Listening to that voice keeps me glued firmly on what is right for me. And the physical, mental and emotional health benefits of that are immense.

And if I can get those benefits from washing the dishes, then all the better.

Your turn:

• do you practice formal meditation techniques? How often?
• do you always listen to your inner voice, or do you question and second guess it?

Suggested reading:

Meditation … Its Benefits
Meditation and Menopause
Spiritual aspects of menopause