Comments on: The importance of saying No http://silverandgrace.com/the-importance-of-saying-no Tue, 07 Feb 2012 06:01:43 -0500 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Massive Meditation and Yoga Journal http://silverandgrace.com/the-importance-of-saying-no/comment-page-1#comment-1251 Massive Meditation and Yoga Journal Fri, 04 Jun 2010 20:23:05 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=620#comment-1251 [...] Fayle presents The importance of saying No posted at Silver and [...] [...] Fayle presents The importance of saying No posted at Silver and [...]

]]> By: Carnival of Healing #224: Living with Spirit http://silverandgrace.com/the-importance-of-saying-no/comment-page-1#comment-877 Carnival of Healing #224: Living with Spirit Sat, 03 Apr 2010 12:53:43 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=620#comment-877 [...] Are you saying yes when you really should say no? Eliza Fayle, Silver and Grace, offers tips for a happier you and improved relationships with others in The Importance of Saying No. [...] [...] Are you saying yes when you really should say no? Eliza Fayle, Silver and Grace, offers tips for a happier you and improved relationships with others in The Importance of Saying No. [...]

]]> By: Carnival of Healing #224: Living with Spirit « Wild Reiki and Shamanic Healing Blog http://silverandgrace.com/the-importance-of-saying-no/comment-page-1#comment-876 Carnival of Healing #224: Living with Spirit « Wild Reiki and Shamanic Healing Blog Sat, 03 Apr 2010 12:07:49 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=620#comment-876 [...] Are you saying yes when you really should say no? Eliza Fayle, Silver and Grace, offers tips for a happier you and improved relationships with others in The Importance of Saying No. [...] [...] Are you saying yes when you really should say no? Eliza Fayle, Silver and Grace, offers tips for a happier you and improved relationships with others in The Importance of Saying No. [...]

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]]> By: Eliza http://silverandgrace.com/the-importance-of-saying-no/comment-page-1#comment-423 Eliza Wed, 04 Nov 2009 11:11:31 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=620#comment-423 @Wendi - I love the imagery of the carpet with the footprints. I could see it. And a smile does go along way. It's totally non-confrontational. It's says "I'm saying no, because that's what is right for me, not because I am trying to spite you." @Wendi – I love the imagery of the carpet with the footprints. I could see it. And a smile does go along way. It’s totally non-confrontational. It’s says “I’m saying no, because that’s what is right for me, not because I am trying to spite you.”

]]> By: Eliza http://silverandgrace.com/the-importance-of-saying-no/comment-page-1#comment-422 Eliza Wed, 04 Nov 2009 11:09:55 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=620#comment-422 @Friar - fair enough! This is not a situation unique to women. And I think work is a very good example where men are concerned. Take all those Nortel-ers who kept saying yes to 18 hour days for decades because they thought it would keep them in 'good standing' with the company. Guess they were wishing they'd said no more often now, and enjoyed life along the way, eh? @Friar – fair enough! This is not a situation unique to women. And I think work is a very good example where men are concerned. Take all those Nortel-ers who kept saying yes to 18 hour days for decades because they thought it would keep them in ‘good standing’ with the company. Guess they were wishing they’d said no more often now, and enjoyed life along the way, eh?

]]> By: Eliza http://silverandgrace.com/the-importance-of-saying-no/comment-page-1#comment-421 Eliza Wed, 04 Nov 2009 11:07:52 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=620#comment-421 @XUP - like I'm surprised *chuckle*. You make a good point about the no's being clear and FINAL. While I was making the transition from Yes-Woman to No-Woman, the Takers would badger me until I broke down and said Yes. Now they know that my No's mean No, and they don't bother. @XUP – like I’m surprised *chuckle*. You make a good point about the no’s being clear and FINAL. While I was making the transition from Yes-Woman to No-Woman, the Takers would badger me until I broke down and said Yes. Now they know that my No’s mean No, and they don’t bother.

]]> By: Eliza http://silverandgrace.com/the-importance-of-saying-no/comment-page-1#comment-420 Eliza Wed, 04 Nov 2009 11:06:02 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=620#comment-420 @Lori - I had to ponder the F- No before responding, because my initial reaction was that this was aggressive (even if silent). But then I realized I do the same, only it's Hell No. And I replied the tone of voice in my head and realized it wasn't aggressive at all. It's more of an amused tone. As in, "it would be absolutely ridiculous for me to say Yes to this". :-) @Lori – I had to ponder the F- No before responding, because my initial reaction was that this was aggressive (even if silent). But then I realized I do the same, only it’s Hell No. And I replied the tone of voice in my head and realized it wasn’t aggressive at all. It’s more of an amused tone. As in, “it would be absolutely ridiculous for me to say Yes to this”. :-)

]]> By: Eliza http://silverandgrace.com/the-importance-of-saying-no/comment-page-1#comment-419 Eliza Wed, 04 Nov 2009 11:02:57 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=620#comment-419 @Patricia - ah yes, the rescuer syndrome. We believe in a project, so we end up doing it all to move the project along because nobody else is willing to do anything. Often a tough decision to drop out of a project you believe in, but chances are there's a similar one with more active participants. And thank you for the referral! @Patricia – ah yes, the rescuer syndrome. We believe in a project, so we end up doing it all to move the project along because nobody else is willing to do anything. Often a tough decision to drop out of a project you believe in, but chances are there’s a similar one with more active participants. And thank you for the referral!

]]> By: Wendi Kelly-Life's Little Inspirations http://silverandgrace.com/the-importance-of-saying-no/comment-page-1#comment-418 Wendi Kelly-Life's Little Inspirations Tue, 03 Nov 2009 18:57:52 +0000 http://silverandgrace.com/?p=620#comment-418 Eliza, Very good article..so important... So many times my mom, ( A good guilt driven Italian catholic woman) doesn't get it when I say...I'm sorry mom, that just isn't going to work for me, I have other committments that are going to have come first." She says...OHHH! Getting you to change your mind is impossible! And that isn't true, its just that I got tired of being the carpet on the floor with footprints on my back. It takes practice, but it isn't impossible. I suggest practicing in a mirror. A lot...ahead of time...and smile. IT's hard to beat a smile! Eliza,

Very good article..so important… So many times my mom, ( A good guilt driven Italian catholic woman) doesn’t get it when I say…I’m sorry mom, that just isn’t going to work for me, I have other committments that are going to have come first.”

She says…OHHH! Getting you to change your mind is impossible!

And that isn’t true, its just that I got tired of being the carpet on the floor with footprints on my back. It takes practice, but it isn’t impossible. I suggest practicing in a mirror. A lot…ahead of time…and smile. IT’s hard to beat a smile!

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